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Finding Balance: Guitar Strums & Bedtime Hums

Lee John Blackmore

21 May 2024

MAY 24

Hey Friends,

Another month has flown by, and with it comes a topic that's been weighing on my mind: finding balance. It's no easy feat, especially when life throws its curveballs or our minds just refuse to cooperate. Moving to another country has brought forth a myriad of obstacles that often clash with my creative pursuits or simply steer me away from what I truly want to be doing.

Living overseas as a musician is an incredible experience, but it does come with its challenges. Sure, I meet other musicians who share the same love and passion for music, which is fantastic. My wife is so enthusiastic – she’s always encouraging me to start a new band or play some new shows, but I just don’t feel in the right headspace right now.

Amidst the thrill of new encounters, there's a tug at my heartstrings for the familiar embrace of my old bandmates. There's something magical about being in a room with the people who have seen me through thick and thin, who know the very essence of who I am as a musician. They're the ones who've witnessed my triumphs and my flaws, yet love me all the same.

It can be challenging at times, immersing oneself in new musical landscapes and cultures, especially when you’re still learning the language.

These days for me, it's about finding a balance between my music passion and my family life. While it is important to embrace new opportunities for creative exploration, it’s also important to reflect, gather inspiration, and embrace the joys of family life.

Sure, writing music, performing, or making videos is fun, but the real performance is keeping the family groove going—where the audience can be way more demanding!

Balancing music and family life no matter where you live requires careful consideration and effective time management. As you’ve probably guessed by now, I’m mad about lists. For a long time, no matter the problem, I’d make a list. So if, by chance, you might be in two relationships (like me), I’ve made a list to help you balance between ‘Home Life’ and ‘Creative Life.’ It’s obvious, I know, but hear me out:

1. Set Priorities: Determine what matters most to you in both your music career and your relationship. This will help you allocate your time and energy accordingly, whether it's quality time with your partner / family or dedicated focus on your music.

2. Create a Schedule: Develop a structured schedule that includes dedicated time for music practice, performances, and quality time with your partner. Be realistic about how much time you can commit to each area and ensure that both aspects of your life are given proper attention.

3. Communicate with Your Partner: Keep open lines of communication with your partner about your commitments and goals in music. Discuss how they can support you while also ensuring that the needs of your relationship are met.

4. Involve Your Partner: Find ways to involve your partner in your musical pursuits. This could include attending concerts together, sharing your music with them, or even collaborating on musical projects if they're interested.

5. Be Flexible: Understand that there will be times when you need to adjust your schedule or priorities to accommodate unexpected events or changes in your relationship. Flexibility and compromise are key to maintaining a healthy balance.

6. Take Breaks: Allow yourselves time to recharge and enjoy each other's company away from both music and other responsibilities. This will help strengthen your bond and ensure that you can continue to give your best in both areas of your life.

7. Set Boundaries: Establish boundaries between your music and relationship time to prevent one from encroaching too much on the other. This may involve setting specific hours for music practice or designating certain days as date nights with no musical commitments.

8. Delegate and Seek Support: Don't hesitate to delegate tasks or seek support from your partner when needed. Whether it's helping with household chores or providing emotional support, having a supportive partner can lighten your load and reduce stress.

9. Stay Organised: Keep track of your commitments, deadlines, and quality time with your partner using calendars, planners, or digital tools. This will help you stay organised and ensure that both your music career and your relationship thrive.

10. Prioritise Self-Care: Remember to take care of yourself physically, mentally, and emotionally, as well as your partner. Your well-being is essential for both your music career and your relationship to flourish.

In Summery: By trying these strategies, you'll hopefully find a healthy balance between pursuing your passion for music and nurturing your relationship with your partner or family.

Stay Connected: Connect with me on social media for weekly guitar inspiration, sneak peeks of upcoming lessons, and surprise giveaways. Find me on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube.

If you have any questions, feedback, or suggestions, please don't hesitate to reach out to me.

Best regards,


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